Sunday, November 28, 2010

Autograph Please ?

Have you ever tried looking at your Life from a third person's perspective. Or let me rephrase, have you looked at your Life like you are watching a Movie?. Take a moment to first grasp the idea of watching YOUR Movie. Newly suggested thoughts take a while to digest.

Now that your visualise your life as a Movie, the million dollar question is, Who are YOU in the Movie ?

Hold on to that thought.

Now generally when you want to go see a Movie, you expect something out of it whether its comedy, romance, action or thriller your looking for. You want to ENJOY the experience and leave the Cinema with a feel good feeling ! But it takes two to clap and depends on how everyone brings it to the table.

In Life, you are the Director, Producer, Script Writer & Lead. What kind of a Movie would you like to watch of YOUR life ?

All you got to do is write your Life's Script, direct your Actions based on what you have written and Produce the Results you want to see . You are the Actor. You ARE the Movie. Live the Life you choose to Live. Yes there would be Villians & Vamps around in the form of Challenges and Obstacles, but then again, there is always a "HAPPY ENDING". Because you WROTE the Script.

Look around you. Life is a Stage and WE are mere Actors. What inspires TV Sitcoms and Movies are nothing but expereiences of People in their respective lives.

Its up to you now whether you make a Blockbuster out of your Life or a Box Office Disaster.

So, Who are YOU in your Movie ? Go ahead and write your Oscar Winning Role.

One Life, Live it Large !

Autograph please ?

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Loving "YOU"

“I don't like myself, I'm crazy about myself”

How often do we say things like this to ourselves. As a matter of fact how often do we even talk to ourselves ? Have you ever tried it or do you laugh at the very thought of it ?

"Talk to myself? !!!, What am I Stupid ? !! "

Confession time - I Talk to myself. Am I stupid ? Noways. I love spending time with MYSELF. Generally, people are always surrounded by others through relationships or circumstances. Whether its Home or Office, you are rarely alone ; even if your a social outcast. So what am I trying to get at here is to ask yourself, how much time do you spend with the one you should love the most, YOURSELF ? Or are you looking for that Love and Approval from someone else ?

Every now and then I take a walk at the Race Course, to consciously spend time with "me".  And trust me, not only do you hear your thoughts more clearly but you also have these awesome breakthrough ideas . How can you even expect someone to love your company, if you yourself dont. Being alone is fun. It helps to get to know "YOU" and value what "YOU" are all about. And believe you me, if you genuinely Love "YOU", it won't matter what people say or think of you. I have seen people vulnerable and sensitive towards comments and criticism. Its like giving another person a Remote to CONTROL the way you should feel. I honestly dont even like the IDEA of being CONTROLLED. Dont think you do either.

So what are "YOU" all about. Explore yourself. Self-Discovery is a Road less Travelled, but is also known to be the best Journeys one can take. You might just have a Paradigm Shift for all you know. Life begins and ends with "YOU". There is only one "YOU".

I am Proud to be "ME". Are you?


Go to a Book Store. Get a hot beverage and an uplifting book.

Wear your ipod to the park and admire nature.

Go for a swim. I've personally taken my best decisions in a swimming pool.

Watch a Movie in the cinema by yourself. Its an experience .(Atleast you wont have to share your popcorn)

Drive far away from all the metropolitan hustle.

Meditation is great. Do it and then judge for yourself.

In the immortal words of Oscar Wilde, "“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance"

To "YOU" !


Monday, October 4, 2010


 " When life throws lemons, make lemonade or just bring out the Tequila ".

In other words, we face situations and incidents as a part of our everyday Life. But more important or rather crucial than the situation, is our response or reaction to it. There is not much difference in spelling between the two words response and reaction, but there is a world of difference that it makes to ones life. Reaction is being in alignment with the event that you just experienced. If someone shouts at you, you shout back. If someone irritates you, you get irritated. Getting the flow ?

Well read on. We do this on a regular basis that it has become a part of us and we dont realise. If you feel you dont belong to my generalisation here, good for you. But this habit that we have sub-consciously created for ourselves, allows our circumstances to dictate and control the way we feel. So if we could change that , woudnt that be the best.

Someone wise once said and still says, " Happiness is a Choice.". Just try this exercise and let me know how it works for you. Everytime your faced with a negative circumstance or situation, before reacting immediately, just imagine yourself as a third party to whats happening, think for a few seconds if it is really worth reacting negatively over, and most of the times you should say " No, this is not worth it especially at the cost of my happinesss". This is when you are Responding to the scenario.

So there you have it. All you have to do, is make the Right Choice for You !

And when your a Happy individual you will find yourself surrounded by Happy individuals. Its the secret formula - Like attracts Like.


Thursday, July 22, 2010

The Secret to You !!


Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Lover's Handicap

Affairs, Relationships, Courtships, call them whatever you want, sooner or later we all experience the varied trysts of love. Rarely does it happen that our first lover stays our last lover. Love is an Event and Loving the Journey.

As Oxford calls it, " a strong feeling of affection", Love, hits everyone.  Boy meets Girl, Attraction, Phone Numbers, Dates, Relationship, Kiss, Anniversary,Arguments,Break up, Patch up, Break up. Depression. Next. (Sequence of events not defined)

Or something like that. Atleast the stereotype chain reaction looks like that for the majority. Its a graph of ups and downs with elements like Excitement, Happiness and hiccups of Boredom. At times you feel like you finally know what love is all about until you meet the next one. Then again what is Love?

Some one you want to be with when you are alone?
Some one you want to come home to ?
Some one who makes you happy ?
Some one who turns your wrong into right?

Well that seems like being more dependant THAN being more in love. That is definitely not love. Its called being Handicapped !

So do we Find Love or Does Love Happen ? Its actually a mix of both the ingredients. Its only when we ask that we truly recieve.

Does the phrase "Opposites Attract" ring a bell or two? Well I've heard that for years, but when it came to the test, it only drove me away from the person. I believe it takes a commonness to strike a chord of a kind with that someone special before taking the next step. Like having a Friend in your Lover first.

And to top it all what if you and your partner had similar passions. Wouldnt it just be ideal to have a best friend in your partner who shares to a significant extent the same passions as you ? Now thats something to think about.

"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."- Sam Keen

To Love and etc. !

Thursday, July 8, 2010

"FI-FA"bulous !!

The Past One Month has engulfed the whole world's attention towards the FIFA World Cup 2010 in South Africa. Its fascinating to see so much Congruence towards one Sport. Everytime the 2 Countries take Field for a match, the entire Nation is stirred with anticipation and anxiety of the outcome. This is actually the most Emotional time of the Year. With every Win and Loss, there comes Joy and Sorrow, because Nothing Else Matters.

For the First Time in 80 Years, South Africa is hosting the FIFA World Cup and is also known now to be one of the most Courteous and Commendable Hosts over the 8 decades the World Cup has been taking place. Its definitely got Millions of People Blowing Vuvuzuelas to the tunes of Waka Waka. But who would've thought that almost a month into the World Cup, the most experienced and highly ranked squads would be singing a different tune altogether. Its been Quality over Experience this World Cup with the UnderDogs Netherlands surpassing their way up the Tables and joining Viva Espana at the Cliff Hanger. Could never have imagined that World Cup Champions Brasil, Argentina, Italy, France and Germany would become mere Spectators at a given point in time. My sincere regrets to the Losing Gamblers. If only they had heeded the right animal for Psychic Forecasting.

But I really wish to see our country India having a  qualified team in the World Cup. Over a Billion in Population and we cant produce 11 star players. And I thought there were Loopholes, only in the Taxation System. Atleast Mahindra Satyam found some place on the sideline banners this year at South Africa, as consolation.

So Vamos Espana ? or Oranje ?

Paul ???

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Dreamer Personified

Hundreds of People from all across America gathered infront of Dr. Martin Luther King to hear his speeech. The speech that began with ," I Have a Dream.... "

When was the last time you believed in your created dream. When was the last time you decided to close your eyes and dream. Or are the only dreams we see,  the ones we experience when we sleep.

As kids, we Dreamt. Everything around us inspired us to dream, Big or Small, regardless. We wanted everything because we so naively believed Everything was ours and all we had to do was Ask.

As we grow older and so-called wiser, what happens to those Dreams we so Passionately Believed in. Does it just unconsciously seep out of our brain cells into thin vapour? or do we just stop Believing because Reality is more easier to digest?

Think Again.

There is a Dreamer in us all. It does not Cost anything to Dream, so why not Dream Big. Nowadays Robots are smarter than Humans. But what differentiates us and Robots, is the ability to DREAM.

Remember, every great invention, every great personality or every great event, was first envisioned in someone's mind. Somebody dreamt it first.  And you are no different.

It doesnt take Money to Make Money. It takes the Courage to Dream Big and then to Commit to Turning YOUR Dream into YOUR Reality. Money is but natural, a by-product of the Process.

I ask of you to take out some time and write down only 10 Dreams you want to Manifest into Reality.

Feels strange doesn't it. Its because we are not used to it. So step out of your Comfort Zone and Embrace your Dreams. And Believe you me, every dream you write down will leave a Million Dollar Smile on your Face.

Dream on , literally.


Monday, May 31, 2010


How  much do we complain in a day?

From the time we wake up. Supposedly, if we are late for work or a commitment, what is our first reaction ? Lemme guess , " Oh Damn !", "Oh God !", or the all timer " Oh Sh#t !".

Now let me ask you another Question. Immediately after you react, what feelings do you feel? I doubt "Happy" is one of them. It is usually, Anger, Frustration or just Plainly being upset. Whatever it is, Its not Postive.

Now I'll tell you something I heard, " What you Focus on EXPANDS ".

So, when we grumble or complain about something or someone, were actually asking for trouble. Why would you want more of what you dont want. Sounds like a Googly, but Believe you me, successful & happy people, dont complain, blame or justify either.

So if we want to be or atleast feel Happy & Successful, all we need to start with is Abstinence from the same. Are you up for this Challenge?

I DARE you to NOT Complain or Blame for the Next 7 days. And if you do, rectify your complain into an observation. Let me give you an example right here,

Lets say, you asked a friend to pick you up for a 3pm movie. And for an unknown reason he is late and picks you up at 2 : 55. There could be 2 scenarios namely,

a. You shout at him and grumble about how late he was and that you would miss the start of the movie because of him  (Blame). You would feel Anger and Frustration, which again as a reminder, are not Positive Feelings.

Or Another way to react would be

b. You either accept in your mind that he is late, no problem, whats the worst that could happen, you would miss a few minutes of the start. You make an Observation to him, ask him if everything is alright. Find out why he was late.

Now You tell me, in which scenario, would you ENJOY that movie?

Well it doesnt take Rocket Science to figure that out.


Let me know how it works for you in time to come.

To Happiness !

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Definition Love


"Nothing has Meaning, except for the Meaning you give it". Love is a word difficult to define. Then Again, each to their own. For me when I go into flashback, I remember that tingling feeling within me when I would meet that someone special. And the Young immature Romeo that I was, only blinded me further to believe that it was Love.
    As I was gowing up as a young kid, my only outlet to associating any feeling with the word Love, was the love of my parents. And I believe your parents are the root to your understanding of what love is all about. But then again, I am talking about a different kind of love. I know your probably wondering if there are even different kinds of Love. You see what I am talking about. Your Perception is Your Reality.
      Movies had played quite an influence on me as a kid. It was like my Love- Ed(ucation). From the way the couple would meet, their courtship, the way they kissed and etcetra and etcetra. And Hollywood was like the Harvard for Love-Ed. But then how will you know if you can swim unless you dive in, right? Everything does look rosy on screen, but you only know what's what in real. I am sure we have all had our encounters with Love. I heard the phrase that you can fall in love only once in your life. But when Love happened to me, it just happened again and again and again. I am grateful to all those girls who embraced my percieved Love for they taught me what Love could be. Every Experience was no doubt different in the most beautiful and memorable way, that every now and then when I take a walk down memory lane, I ponder to find myself smiling.
     Although I do see people I know finding it difficult to fall in love again. For its challenging to overcome a certain past experience. And its not that I have not been hurt myself. But with time, I chose to take the Positive out of my Relationship and learn from the Negative. And move on. Whats the point of holding on to the past when its "IN THE PAST". What matters is your Now and Tomorrow. And I believe every day can be a new beginning with or without your partner.
     I have learnt alot from the Beautiful Human Beings I have had the pleasure of courting. And one learning I would like to share is that , " Love is what you Make of it, period". Do not place your Love affair at par with Stereotypical Norms. If you feel Love, then just Love. I have Loved from the bottom of my heart every time only because I felt it strongly from within. There is no such thing as "Enough Love" or "75% Love".
Love All,

Merci ;)

P.S. - Your Comments are Valuable.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Family- Your Root to Unconditional Love & More

What comes to your mind, when I say the word Family? Love ? Upbringing? Life? or it could unfortunately be the opposite for some as well. Well whatever it is, its really important to acknowledge what lies behind this one magnificent word.
Family- Your reason to exist. Agree? No options there. Well I've realised over a period of time the importance of mine. Whether your the only child like me or whether you have siblings, it doesnt really make much difference in how one should respect his parents. Whatever happens in Life, your parents, being your core family will always be around. My father infact says, that you cannot trust anyone as much as you can trust your family. The phrase, " Blood is Thicker than Water" ring a bell ?.
Whatever I am today, I am hugely grateful to them for supporting me and giving me the upbringing I have. Everyone would have their own perspectives here. Respect that. From the time you learnt how to walk to being fed your first cerelac. The love being so unconditional then, as we graduate through school where are interactions with non-family members a.k.a class mates takes place. Parents being extremely weary at this point, wanting to know who your friends are, so that you are under the right influence. We all know how crucial that outside "influence" is.
And then before you know it your social life booms. Peer pressure of your friends, latest trends and the all hyped " Are you cool enough" quotient. Arguing with Mum and Dad for extended curfues, inflated allowances and my ultimate faviourite " I want that cell phone ! ". I'm sure we can all relate. Nod your head if you do. But as we grow older and mature through our varied experiences, how does our relationship with our parents change? For all that they have done for us, we are indebted to them eternally. And how do you think is the best way to repay their efforts and sacrifices? Just make them proud of who you become. Simple. More than the Retirement Holidays you give them, is the Moral Support and Unconditional Love you return.
Golden Thumb Rule being never to do anything to disrespect them.
Its never too late. You'll encounter hundreds of people in life, most will come and go. Its a selfish world. But your Parents will always love you, now and forever. Cherish what you have before you set out to achieve what you dont have.

God Bless.

To Love !

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Perception is Projection


Monday, April 26, 2010

Friendship Private Limited

Can you imagine a Life with no Social Being? Its almost impossible. You are practically socialising since the day you were born when your parents did the whole baby talk with you. From that day onwards we come across PEOPLE like ourselves, yet different. I believe everyone you meet leaves some kind of impression on you and vice-versa. And the summary of these impressions forms an Experience with which we grow up. Its a serious thought. A friend very close to me once said, that we are an average of the six people we spend the most time with. If I were you, at this moment, I would be thinking of who those 6 people were. Are you with me?
      Influence. Such a strong word. If you look back into your past and retrospect, you will find certain experiences that taught you or changed you, for the better or worse ofcourse. I remember my Parents being worried when I was in School, wanting to know who my friends were. Why? Because my character reflected my company to a great extent. And as I grew mature and understanding towards my surroundings I realised the Importance of having the Right People around me. No surprises that a point came where my Parents were more appreciative of my friends (ofcourse everyone has their share of flaws as well).
         Coming to the point, that, you should choose your friends wisely. Especially the six people you spend the most time with. Would you want to be like someone who has bad habits, no ambition and disrespects life's offerings OR Would you want to be Positive, Passionate and Proud of the person you are? Think about it. I look at all the successful people today that I read about and I find one such characteristic common, and that is Knowing who your real Friends are? Do they uplift you or do they provoke you? Are they selfish or self-less? Are they friends? or mere Acquaintances?.
          Small Things Make Big Differences. Everything beings with a Thought. Hope I could help lay down a platform to think from.

P.S.- Friendship is not being selfish. Its recognising who has his hand around you, and who doesnt.

God Bless.

Love All,...................Marry One ! (Haha)

To Friendship !


Cricket + Bollywood = IPL

Cricket and Bollywood. What is India without Cricket and Bollywood? I am sure India can RUN only on the Tax pay outs from these Biggies. Some Actors on Screen and some on Field.. And yet were not just done because guess who follows? Yes, you got that right. Our fellow Politicians.  WoW !! Quite an organised mess !!
         What a Performance , If no one watched though? IPL 3 - Grand Finale Housing 55,000 People in the Stadium and Millions outside. Some Supply and Demand Curve here. With Thousands of Crores in the Rolling; High Stakes, Multi Millionairres and Aspiring Gamblers.  Its like a huge Box Office Movie. Actors being the Cricketers (Male) , Celebs  (Female), Directors being Team Owners and Producers, or should i say PRODUCER. Nonetheless, our very Controversial, Lalit Modi.  I wont be surprised if Ekta Kapoor is already stirring up an IPL conceptualised TV Soap .
                Well,  India's Biggest Entertaining Product has wrapped up tonight. The Winners Take Their Monetary and Emotional Pride, Losers take their Compromising Attitude and the Population; well the people of india, the crazy " I LOVE YOU SACHIN" fans, wait till World Cup T20.
          In short, what does all this have to do with you? Entertainment will remain Entertainment. Create an IPL out of your Life is the WAY TO GO ! Be a PERFORMER and Let others watch you RISE. Living a Fulfilling Dream Realising Life is more Entertaining than Watching Someone else do it.

As Henry Ford says, "If you Think you can or can't, either way your Right"

To Life !!

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Are you Dancing?

And I'm back !! Given my Blog a real long dry phase. Its pay-back Time.
        Everyone speaks about Finding Your Passion. Well one such discovered Passion in me is Dancing. Also known as "Dreaming on Your Feet". The Academy I dance with , very familiarly known as Shiamaks Dance Institute of Performing Arts, literally Believes in "Have Feet, Will Dance". Anyone and Everyone can dance! I believe it too. Dont you? I mean think about it? Right now you might think sober and straight ( Thats when your guards are up).... But You know that when you've had a little too much to drink, your body has a mind of its own. So I wont be surprised if your unaware of the Dancer in You.
           In todays times, People generally are amidst stress and tension about the various situations in Life. But every once in a while, You might wanna let loose, Let your Hair down and let your body do the talking. And what a feeling it is. Your a different person RIGHT there, the FREE YOU.!! I mean you can take this up like Bathroom Singing. Yes ! Don't give me that look that you dont sing in the Bathroom. I've been watching.
  So likewise, you can close your door, put on some loud likeable music and just dance. Dont think about how others would like for you to dance. For that matter don't even let the mirror be judgemental. Its you , only you.
     I usually suggest music that has meaning and lyrics that are uplifting and lively. You know what I'm talking about. The strum of that Guitar or the tone of the Piano mixed with THAT voice ; just creates a connection doesnt it? I believe there is a Dancer in all of us. All we gotta do is recognise it and let it out every once in a while.
           Life is Short or Long, who cares. What matters is NOW ! What are you Doing NOW ?. And remember, You Create the World YOU Live in ! So Create your Wonderland, Your Heaven, Your Palace,Your Stage ; You get the point .

Until next time,
As said by Paula Abdul- "Dance like there's no tomorrow"

Peace !!